Thankfully, this is something that is starting to be talked about in a healthy and normative way. We are beginning to go beyond the "toughen up" attitude and
If you are depressed or aren't coping PLEASE reach out. It is ok to feel this way during holidays, but make sure that you get the support you need. These numbers are free and completely confidential.
1. Identify and deal with moods
One of the biggest learning curves (and successes) I have had for my mental health was teaching myself to identify and deal with my emotions in a positive way. In the past I would ignore emotions, eat them or drink to numb them. Not exactly the smartest plan, because they were always waiting for me. I hadn't dealt with them, just swept them under the rug to build into an unmanageable mess.
Now, in no way am I saying that you should react to every emotional when it arises. That's not practical or helpful. But we all need to find safe and constructive ways to express our feelings.
Things I do:
2. Make time
Too often it feels like we have more to do than time in the day, and generally it is because we do. The things that aren't important will be there tomorrow, the world will not fall apart because we did not send that email or run that errand. When we try to do everything, the things that do matter fall to the way-side, forgotten.
Personally, I am a big believer in planning, schedules and timetables. My life isn't as busy as it used to be so my planning has shifted from time allocation and prioritizing to a list of tasks to complete that day (ranked by importance). Whether you schedule every minute or just have a to-do list, any sort of planning this will help you make time for the important things.
No one finds time. We make time.
Things I aim to make time for:
Try adding at least one of these points to your daily routines. Work will still be there, the dishes will wait for you, but your mental health won't - so give it some priority.
3. Build confidence
On days and events centered around family, it can be tough to ask for the things you really need (like some alone time). The thing that helps me is confidence. When I am confident I feel empowered, and that my needs are not less important than anyone else's.
Things I have done to help me build my confidence:
4. Manage stress
Stress is a giant pain in the ass.
5. Care for your body
A happy body is conducive to a healthy mind. Nothing brings our moods down quicker than our bodies feeling blah. Be good to your body - its the only one you have.
Until next time: take care of yourselves